‘What are the possibilities presented by this situation?’
I remember I was once asked by a psychotherapist, ‘why was I so excited and looking forward to Ramadan?’. A month of no-eating! I thought, hmm … how do I answer such a question? Do I go into the features and ruling of fasting in Islam? What clever, intellectual explanation do I give?
Then I decided on giving my personal reason, away from any fancy words and concepts.
My personal reason at the time was ‘connection’. Ramadan was a time when I felt more connected with myself and my soul. The times of Iftar when the whole family comes together to break their fast was time to connect with my family. The whole fasting and worship experience made me feel more connected to Allah.
While fasting the month of Ramadan is a pillar of Islam and has many cultural practices involved in it, it is a personal experience. You make of it what YOU make of it!
Here is where stories from the Quran can give us a glimpse of our person choice and attitude. They are gateways to change our attitude to open our hearts to the possibilities that Allah presents us through what we call life. Because life happens! An attitude change that could add so much to our lives and Ramadan is a fantastic time to practice it. (more…)
By Shamim F
- Purify the intention and correct the goal – One’s concern to memorise Qur’an and preserve it must be for Allah, for gaining His paradise and attaining His pleasure, and for acquiring the great rewards reserved for those who recite the Qur’an and memorise it. Reiterate the significance of this intention to your children.
- Correcting Pronunciation and Recitation – Listen to a good precise reciter.
- Set a daily limit for the amount of Qur’an to be memorised – Help your children set realistic goals insha’Allah that will also give your children a sense of achievement.
- Continual Recitation and Review – of the daily portion you have set in order to ensure it is retained in the long-term memory. The recitation can be reaffirmed in fard/nafl prayers, while sitting in the Masjid before jama’ah prayers, while waiting for anything, before going to sleep etc. Make this repetition enjoyable for children and not a chore.
- Reciting in a Melodic Tone – this conforms to the Sunnah and helps make memorization firm and strong.
- Using the same mushaf (copy of the Qur’an) – a person memorises using vision and hearing. The script and form of the ayat, and their places in the mushaf leave an imprint in the mind when recited and looked at frequently. Using different mushafs confuses the memory and makes memorising more difficult. Give each child their own Qur’an for memorization insha’Allah.
- Understanding the meaning – this greatly aids memorization of the Qur’an. The memoriser should read the tafsir (explanation) of the ayat they want to memorise and bring these meanings to mind while reciting them. Try to establish a daily routine of reading tafsir with your children insha’Allah.
- Reciting to others – a memoriser should test their memorisation by reciting the ayat to a companion who knows them by heart or can follow from the mushaf. This is a means of correcting any mistakes and keeping their mind constantly alert in avoiding these errors.
- Constant review – constant revision and review of what has been memorised is necessary in order to retain it and protect it from slipping away.
- Watching for analagous sections of the Qur’an – various parts of the Qur’an resemble each other in meaning, wording or repetition of ayat.
- Taking advantage of the ‘Golden Hours’ of the day – best time to memorise Qur’an is the last part of the night before Fajr or the early morning hours that follow it.
- Taking advantage of the ‘Golden Years’ of memorising – best years are from age of five to twenty-three.
- Make dua and remember that Allah says in the Qur’an (54:22): “And We have made the Qur’an easy for remembrance (and understanding), so there is one that will receive admonition?”
Alkauthar Institute Weekend Course – ‘Parenting Matters, The art of raising Righteous Children’. Taught by Sheikh Alaa Elsayed.