Five Steps to Becoming a Fruitful Muslimah

Who are Asia bint Muzahim and Mariam bint Imraan?

They are two women who lived in different lands and in very different times.

Asia was a rich and powerful woman in Egypt. Her family were unbelievers. Her husband, for start, claimed he was a God!

Asia had a loving heart. She took into her palace a helpless baby and raised him as her son. When Asia saw the truth and the light of guidance entered her heart she had the courage to stand up for her faith. Asia was humiliated and tortured but stood strong because of her trust in Allah and her belief that what Allah had prepared for her was greater.

Almost 2000 years later, in Palestine, we meet Mariam. Mariam’s story began with her mother. For Mariam’s family were pious people and Mariam’s mother hoped and prayed for a child who would be devoted to Allah.

So you can imagine how shocked Mariam was when she was given the news that she would carry a baby inside her without being married. It was the decree of Allah that she would not be touched by a man but it would be a miracle from Allah.

Mariam accepted with a content heart and faced her people with courage and trusted Allah’s wisdom and decree.

Asiya was praised by Allah,

“And Allah gives an example for those who believe: the wife of pharaoh. (Remember) when she said, ‘My Lord! Build for me a house with you in Paradise, and deliver me from Pharaoh and his deeds; and deliver me from the unjust people.'” (Quran 66:11)

As was Mariam,

And [mention] when the angels said, “O Mariam, indeed Allah has chosen you and purified you and chosen you above the women of the worlds. (Quran 3:42)

I believe that Asiya and Mariam were great examples of being a fruitful tree. Their trust strongly rooted in their faith of Allah and their branches reaching us as inspirational examples for the believers until end of time.

Let’s imagine ourselves sitting under the shade of this amazing tree, eating from its sweet fruit, the rustle of the leaves in the breeze in the background

I start by bringing you glad tidings, great news!

  1. You already have it in you!

 a) Regardless of your background, education, status, wealth …. You were created with that peace and complete surrender to Allah:

And [mention] when your Lord took from the children of Adam – from their loins – their descendants and made them testify of themselves, [saying to them], “Am I not your Lord?” They said, “Yes, we have testified.” [This] – In case you would say on the day of Resurrection, “Indeed, we were of this unaware.” (Quran 7:172)

The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “No one is born except upon natural instinct, then his parents turn him into a Jew or Christian or Magian”. Narrated by Bukhari

b) You have been gifted with talents and skills. Recognise them and make the most of them

As a woman you have been created with your own special qualities:

  • Did you know that women are great at multitasking? No wonder you can do so many things at the same time.
  • Did you know that women are excellent at reading facial expressions and body language? Which makes you great communicators!
  • Did you know that women have strong intuition? You can sense things before the obvious signs.
  • Did you know that women think about the details and how things are connected? No wonder you are so interested in building and maintaining relationships.
  • Are your emotions a disadvantage? No because connecting to your emotions make you an empathetic and approachable person.
  1. The Qadar is on your side. Make the most of being an orange tree, a palm tree or a willow tree.

Narrated in Masnad Ahmad in an interesting context. It is said that the Prophet chuckled and then asked his companions, “Will you not ask me what makes me laugh?” They asked him what made him laugh, and so he then said, “Wondrous are the affairs of the believer. When something pleasing happens to him, he is thankful, and it is good for him. When something harmful happens to him, he is patient, and it is good for him and this is only the case for the believer”

But what does khair mean? It is much greater than just goodness; it is well-being, prosperity and welfare. And so, each and every matter that concerns a believer is full of goodness, well-being, prosperity, and welfare.

There was a man who was bald, suffered from leprosy, blind and paralysed (both arms and legs) who used to say “Praise be to Allah who has kept me safe from much of what he has tested his other creations with and made me better in so many ways”. A passer by heard him and asked him amazed: “What did he keep you safe from? You are blind, leper, bald and paralysed!”. The man replied: “Woe to you man! He [Allah] gave me a tongue to remember Him with, a grateful heart and body that is able to bear calamity with patience.”

3. Acknowledge the ups and downs. Some days will be windy, some days will be frosty and other days will be sunny and warm!

As with any human being, we have our good days and not so good days. Our Iman will be affected with we are in our periods and aren’t praying and consistently reading the Quran. Pregnancy and birth take a lot out of a women, not to mention the sleepless nights because of children, young and older.

Our shariah acknowledges this:

“Faith wears out in your heart as clothes wear out, so ask Allah to renew the faith in your hearts.” (narrated by al-Tabaraani).

This weakness or weariness of faith, whether due to a weak understanding of truth, or the strength of external negative forces, is to be expected.

This human nature is further confirmed here:

And never say of anything, “Indeed, I will do that tomorrow,” Except [when adding], “If Allah wills.” And remember your Lord when you forget [it] and say, “Perhaps my Lord will guide me to what is nearer than this to the right conduct.” (Quran 18:23-24)

One of the opinions in the tafsir of this verse is to remember Allah when you forget something because forgetting is from satan. The boy travelling with Prophet Musa said: “I forgot [there] the fish. And none made me forget it except Satan – that I should mention it.” (Quran 18:63)

Whenever you forget, feel weak, go through the downs, Remember Allah.

Now, it is time to embrace our growth and contribution!

  1. Grow and contribute.

Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawzeeyah (may Allah have mercy upon Him) once said: “The actions of the heart are the foundation (of belief), and the actions of the limbs follow them and complete them.”
To grow and contribute as you fix your intentions is a natural next step.

Remember that the good you do for others benefits you first: {And whatever good you put forward for yourselves – you will find it with Allah . It is better and greater in reward. And seek forgiveness of Allah. Indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful}. (Quran 73:20)

What will be your contribution to family, friends, neighbours, classmates, work colleagues, people you meet online and in person?

You are not alone !

Aisha, the wife of the Prophet (peace be upon him) and mother of the belivers,  provided valuable commentary on many hadiths. Amrah bint Abd Al-Raḥman was considered an expert on financial transactions by the scholars of Madinah. Umm Al-Darda Al-Ṣughra’ to whom the caliph Abd Al-Malik ibn Marwan used to travel to study with, seeking her insights.

  1. Make a plan, take consistent action, review.

 I suggest that you take time to reflect on your actions and future plans.

Sit and make a plan, take consistent action and keep reviewing your actions, are they working? Do they need tweaking?

Our Islamic teachings are amazing because we are reminded to do what we can and leave the outcome to Allah.

Allah’s Messenger said, “Do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately and know that your deeds will not make you enter Paradise, and that the most beloved deed to Allah is the most regular and constant even if it were little.” Narrated by Bukhari

My dear sister, on our journey towards being a fruitful tree began in the company of the likes of Asiya and Mariam.

We remembered that Allah has placed the seed of goodness in each one of us. That a positive outlook on life means patience in times of difficulty and gratefulnees at time of blessings. That it is OK to feel weak and tired at times, take time out, return to Allah and keep going.

It is a natural progress that you develop as a person and have a positive effect on others. It helps to make a plan, take consistent actions and keep checking those steps keeping your heart always attached to the creator of the causes and in whose hand the outcome is.

What are your fruitful pickings from this post?



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